What I've learned from watching my best friend grieve
Pray for Penny
On December 7, 2023, my best friend Penny lost her husband Kelly. I was in Walmart shopping when I got the message and I’m pretty sure the moment will be imprinted on me forever. Pearl Harbor Day - the day Kelly left.
Nothing in life will prepare you for something like that - no books are written to give you the exact steps because to be honest, there aren’t any.
Each person who grieves, does so differently. There is no cookie cutter way to get all your sorrow out.
Kelly Miller was one of the best men to walk this planet - he left a giant, gaping hole when the Lord took him home. There are no words I can say or give to Penny to make it better or heal her heart. There’s no poem I can recite to ease her pain. That’s for Jesus to do.
So here’s what I’ve learned…I just need to BE there. I just need to sit with her. I just need to text and check on her - drop off coffee. Leave flowers on the porch. Call her to say hey.
I don’t need to talk - I don’t need the right words. Humans don’t have those.
If you’re walking with a friend through grief, just leave your words behind and let your presence be enough.
Pray for Penny.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3
Soli Deo gloria,
Stacy
What good counsel! And please don’t stop doing those thoughtful things. It’s been three years since one of my best friends went to heaven, and the hole that left is still deep and hard to deal with…. Grief is a very lonely journey. It seems that as soon as I could say her name without tears, people assumed I was okay. Not true! I encourage you to continue “just” being there. ❤️
Prayer for Penny! You’re a good friend Stacy! A local police officer lost his life two years ago from a bee sting his wife has now become a grief counselor. She has also written a book about what she went through. Her name is Whitney Lyn Allen. Here is a link to her if Penny would be interested at some point to check it out.
https://linktr.ee/whitneylynallen?fbclid=PAAaYqWi_bloKa4gu4KfyrxaGhFSqXt-A6WGpV8fJ9syvAPP8qIahXd6wOaBk_aem_AdSy0EXGEVfAN20vh8woKj4M-QVwMj7osVS0WwToBFJmT5jzW4waARpIcSl0L95nwe4
Keeping Penny and family in my thoughts and prayers.